I can now start a LiveVideo on my business page from my laptop. Whee! 😉
If you’ve already spent too much time, energy and money on learning all about the mechanics of running a business (Facebook Ads, Google Adwords, sales letters, website creation for a start) and are STILL not really any better off than you were 12 months ago, there is a huge opportunity out there you might not even realise you’ve been missing.
It’s the fact that women need a different kind of business training to men.
Women-owned businesses have a far higher churn rate (the rate of new ones opening and closing down) because the support women need is in creating a unique, authentic business they feel confident about – not just learning the mechanics of marketing and lead generation.
I mean, what do you do with all those leads IF you manage to attract them if you’re not confident about what you can offer them? Or if you’ve spent all that effort and realize you’ve been attracting the wrong KIND of leads?
Actually, it’s even bigger than that:
- The vast majority of working women say being self-employed would be the solution they’re looking for yet a large proportion end up returning to the constraints of employment within 3 years due to feelings of uncertainty, insecurity or guilt.
- Most women don’t know how to structure a small business so it will create the regular income they need and are unaware of the abundance of tools and resources now available.
- The women who take that big first step to actually start a business are the ones who absolutely have what it takes to make the money and the impact they want to make – but they need to be shown how.
- With retirement a ways off for most of us, and the fact that, realistically, our children are likely to be at home for longer than ever before – making a success of your own business is the only way most of us will ever have a chance of achieving our financial goals.
However, knowing that owning your own business is the perfect way to take control of your future, and actually MAKING IT WORK are two COMPLETELY different things.
Well, if you’re an entrepreneur who has already embraced the reality that the work you do on the inside – on understanding your own worth, building your self-confidence and creating a unique and authentic business, for example – is just as important (if not more so) than all that techy stuff, that’s fantastic! You’re ahead of the curve!
But…are you using it to creating the business and the future you REALLY want?
Now if you’re a self-employed woman who has been struggling along on your own, concentrating solely on the mechanics of it all just waiting for things to finally take off, what are you waiting for? If the things you’ve been doing haven’t worked so far, why not take a look at what really successful people focus on? Every day you put off you continue to lose opportunities, clients and income.
No matter which group you fall into, I have some fantastic news for you.
My good friend Emma Hague, is offering something brand new — a FREE 3-day virtual training from January 11th – 13th, ALL about creating and keeping more money, building your confidence, attracting your ideal clients, creating a business that is grounded in your strengths, values and personality and getting the tools, resources & support you need to create that breakthrough you need NOW as a self-employed woman.
It’s called “Business Breakthrough Secrets!”
Here’s the link to reserve your space:
Emma has brought together 12 master teachers including me, Maryam, in ONE powerful virtual training course to teach you all our secrets on using all the tools and resources available to you as a determined, but frustrated self-employed woman so that you can create a profitable, unique and authentic business that will support your family for life.
IMPORTANT: This NOT the “same old, same old” talks floating round – this is brand new material designed specifically for this event.
In fact, here are a few juicy tidbits you’ll discover from this first-time-ever, exclusive training:
- DOZENS of SPECIFIC techniques you can implement IMMEDIATELY to create your own business breakthrough (whatever level you’re at right now)
- The EXACT steps to take to re-boot your business in order to attract your IDEAL CLIENTS (Actually you’re going to learn MANY different strategies so you can pick the ones that resonate with where you are right now and focus on those to get started).
- The things you should avoid AT ALL costs to make sure you don’t waste your valuable time and money on ideas that just don’t work.
- And much more…
Here’s that link again so you can reserve you place on this complimentary 3 Day Live Virtual Training Event.
INSTANT BONUS: When you grab your seat today you will immediately receive access to the truly life-changing seminar “You Were Born Rich” with the amazing contributor to ‘The Secret’, Bob Proctor. Prepare to be surprised and enlightened!
If you’re like everyone else (me included) 2016 kicked your butt and kicked it hard, whether you grieved along with the rest of us over the many significant deaths this year, or had personal or business issues. Who didn’t?!
So the heck with “New Year’s Resolutions” – I want you to have lasting changes that work FOR you. So to get us all started off right this year, I have not one but TWO trainings for you.
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- Learn how to let go of more, and what REALLY needs doing...
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- Learn how to get a good start on getting your Money worries handled...
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Hey, bestie…I miss you.
We haven’t connected lately, the world and this crazy-ass year have gone by so damn fast.
I heard you were down. Feeling low.
People said you were sleeping a lot and wouldn’t return calls, texts. Hadn’t come to work in a few days but aren’t sick. But something’s going on.
Honey…I am so sorry if I haven’t been there for you. If no one has.
Just so you know, my door is always open. The kettle is always on, my sofa and strong shoulders are always warm places of peace and non judgement. Friends who need to chat are welcome anytime. Particularly if you need an understanding ear to witness you – it’s no good suffering in silence.
I have water in the filter, tea in the pot & coffee in the press.
Occasionally, if I feel quite spanky, there will be my patented-process Wicked Temptress chocolate health truffles and other goodies.
I will always feed you unmercifully and welcome you warmly.
And you need to know that you’re always welcome…even when you’re not on top form. Perhaps especially then. Especially if you’re prone to having a Blue Monday, which is a name given to the third Monday in January, reported to be the most depressing day of the year.
As the calendar tells me January the worst month for suicides, and I haven’t heard from you, I wanted to reach out. Be in touch. Be there if you need me.
I know you’d do the same for me if I needed it.
If it sucks, you can talk to me about it and I won’t judge you. If your heart hurts, I’ll sit with you and pour salted caramel hot chocolate into your cup, (for truly what need have we for people and things with such a grand taste as that, warm and sweet on our tongues?) and gently drop a soft, melting caramel into the bottom of your heart, to bring the sweetness back.
Most of all though, I’ll Listen. Truly, full-Heartedly and very Deeply. We all love to talk, but even better to listen. And listening deeply is an artform I’ve spent a lifetime cultivating.
I rarely post things like this, but in light of my recent learnings in the topic “What Is Humanity?”, have found the greatest gift is Witnessing someone in their totality, with great Love and acceptance. It can change lives.
I’m sharing this and my little video above (love my Bitmoji?!) because I’m trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening to those who think no one is paying attention. I am paying attention. And whether I see you in person or not, I still love you…the whole Universe loves you.
This is so True.
...in which we all "Get Ours"...
Auntie M's 2017 Prediction, Invitation & General Pot-Stirring
Oh, what a beautiful morning! And what a beautiful year for the Divine Love to manifest through Changing Women and Sage Men everywhere. Here is my Prediction and Manifesto for 2017:
We’re going to take this year by the horns and love it fiercely.
We’re going to knit people together where we were divided.
We are going to help and heal this aching old world with furious activity and great love, taking up our leadership where we stand, sit, lie down, work, live and worship without asking for or expecting permission.
We need no one’s permission to work in the Cause of Love.
We are going to stand bravely and with fierce grace for the oppressed and marginalized everywhere, and not cease our activism until every last one of us is free, at peace, knows love and has our basic needs met.
With a mother’s love, we will take the toys of war away from the little boy men and little girl women who wield them and gently, with great patience, teach them the Beauty Way of loving, respectful living in harmony. We will not stop until war is a quaint memory of a more savage historical time.
“Not in MY name!” shall be our rallying cry and “In the name of Love!” shall be our motto.
It won’t always be easy, but each moment will be filled with Grace. At times it will be hard, and the battle may go long, but we will love and hold each other through it and beyond. And joy will be in our every breath, step and interaction.
This is my prediction, pledge and invitation to you, O Changing Women and Sage Men. Who’s up for the challenge? And what actions will YOU take towards manifesting an abundance of love and healing in your world in 2017?
I love you! ❤️
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The Magic of “Pleased All Hollow” and a Changing Woman Business Owner’s ninja prep for New Year’s. Join our free Changing Woman Café FB mastermind for more: https://facebook.com/groups/ChangingWomanCafe
Here’s a brief rundown of the good stuff we covered:
* How to go through your life pleased with every day
* Dealing with the triple threat of Assumption, Expectation and Entitlement
* Deal with your biggest biz stressors: how and what to outsource, how not to stress about promos at New Years, how to get a product or class done & out there quickly with relatively little work
* How your message as a business owner can change through the year, how to incorporate the new and deal with what is no longer relevant
* What to do if you’ve no business promo planned for early 2017, what to do if you’re involved in way too many?
Tons of good stuff here! Let me know – how are YOU implementing?
Legions of homeless on the streets never get aid and are literally starving and friendless in the freezing cold at the holidays.
Will you join me in a simple little initiative to help them this Holiday Season? No money - just your love and presence is required.
It's Christmas, so ask yourself - #WWJD?
Jesus wouldn't look away. Neither would Mary.And in the last year something has woken in me - in many of us I think - that has made it so I can never look away again.Maybe you too.
We are all Jesus and Mary both, in this scenario. And every bright shining spirit on the street, be they ever so clothed in filth and attitude, is our most precious brother or sister.
They need this. *We* need this.
I may only make it around to the twenty I'm planning for, but that's hopefully twenty hearts lifted, twenty souls Seen, a little warmer, brighter and happier. Twenty human beings I can personally help.
This is work open to all of us.
My dear friends and caring hearts: let's DO this! ❤️
I’m in San Francisco walking across Market from the Lookout down Noe to where I am parked. See that grey lump in the doorway of the rainbow flagged shop? That is a man, whose name I do not know. He was sleeping and in the 40F weather I did not bother him.
In the dark corner to the right, in the sheltering House of Chen doorway is another man. Younger, so very young and shivering without enough clothes, but with cancer, whose name is Michael. He once worked in tech downtown here but was laid off.
The cancer ate up his savings, and now he sleeps on Noe.
Michael was defensive and kept saying how cold he was and wanted a blanket, but accepted my beef stew leftovers. Later when I realized I had blankets of an unconventional kind in the car, I finally got him to accept them. He claimed proudly not to want it, but I also left him the coat, blessing bag and sweat pants I’d bought for the guy who cleans my windshield, but has left the area.
I asked permission, then eased the blanket around Michael, tucking him gently into his stone bed, wedging the coat over the top and, holding my breath lest I hurt him, rolling the sweat pants into a pillow, placing the roll behind his head. Every touch was met with a gasp of pain. He should be in the warm, but has no place to go. I found myself speaking the words a mother might to a child she was tucking in, soft murmurs. He asked me to sing a song, so I sang a Welsh wassail very slow and soft until his eyes fluttered.
I dared a gentle hug when he was nearly asleep and left his blanket littered with protein bars where others wouldn’t steal them.
To the left, under the neon X, is a third blessing, a gentle street philosopher named Louis who accepted a hoodie, leg warmers, thermal underwear, hiking socks, a blessing bag, plus a jolly red knit stocking cap and its grey muffler. He was tall and dignified, with all the aplomb of an Ethiopian magi, whom he resembled. We spoke of many things including his favorite bible verses, how misguided people excerpt the Bible and cherry pick verses to suit them while ignoring others that are hard or inconvenient, and how the mission of Jesus was uplifting the poor. He feels blessed in his life.
He loves his grandkids but is glad they can’t see him like this. They call him on his ancient cellphone which he takes in a Starbucks so as to sound normal.
Louis told me the good I was doing would come back to me from a place I least expected it, and gave me valuable advice about how to live on the street if I ever needed it. He said he felt safer in his doorway than in a bed in a house because he trusted in the Lord and people were fundamentally kind. Also that madmen are everywhere but love conquers all.
Then he launched into a very Wayne Dyer type tutorial on gratitude and living in the Now and said to go back to Michael (who’d refused all my offerings initially) as the cold was a powerful convincer.
Louis thanked me for being “Santa’s Helper” (which made me laugh) and said the best present I gave him was my smile and the simple dignity of being treated like a human being that mattered. Choked me up.
The temperature had dropped several chilly degrees as we talked, and Louis began to get ready for bed so I left him to his sleep. Before I did though, he gave me a Bible blessing so powerful I felt like I’d been in the presence of an angel.
Angels unaware these men, bringing blessings through to us, to me. It was hard to turn away, but I wished him Merry Christmas and went off to tuck Michael in and drive home.
I was ready to pull out when I remembered the silver emergency blanket and heavy beach towel in the trunk. Took them back to Michael who was sleeping hard underneath the packing blanket I’d first found and given him. He only woke when I unfurled the crackling plastic of the silver blanket. He cried out, frightened, and I shushed him by singing the Welsh song again, reminding him who I was, that I had been here earlier, calling his name, “relax Michael it’s just me, it’s okay, Michael”. Layered the heavy towel atop the silver blanket. Tucked the edges down tight against the wind.
As I left, my heart broke. In the small voice of a sleepy little boy Michael murmured “Thanks, Mom.” He didn’t just want a blanket, he wanted his blankie, and his mama to soothe him.
I could barely mutter “That’s alright sweetie, you sleep tight now.” around the lump in my throat before tiptoeing away.
I had been driving around with the clothing in the car for weeks – it just felt like the right thing to do. You can do this. Anyone can do this. The homeless particularly need warm blankets, coats, warm socks and sleeping bags right now. But they most need your smile, friendly chat, and to be treated like human beings.
I try my best to let love guide all my actions. Love is my religion and though I hadn’t formally channelled in years, it was the Lady herself who tucked Michael in and sang to him. I couldn’t have managed it by myself, I was too close to tears. At Christmas in particular, it is possible for all people to channel Mary, and a mother’s compassionate love.
In all honesty though, I’d let fear stay my hand for those weeks the clothing sat in my car. I knew the guy who washed my windshields when I fueled up in Berkeley and felt safe dealing with him. He moved on before I could get the things to him and I was afraid to approach people I didn’t know.
But then…I saw that grey, silent lump in the doorway there, and just couldn’t pass by. I screwed up my courage and none of the scary homeless people encounters I’d imagined even happened. Instead, blessings.
I think nothing bad happened because I went in with a tentative and respectful attitude asking “Hey brother, do you need some warm clothes? Food? How are you doing, brother?” listened, and respected what I was told
I didn’t ask them why they were on the street or if they were aware of local services, or if they even wanted to get off the street – not my business and would have shut down the conversation. Minding what I’ve learned about how to be a good ally, respecting what the men themselves said they needed. That’s the best advice I have if you’re doing this work. Respect and love. ❤
I hope I see them again.
Step 5: Do What You Can Do – RIGHT NOW. Keep on doing it.
In early November 2012 I was rear-ended and it left me with bad tendinitis in both forearms and re-breaks in my healed ankles that had broken 2 years ago.
I hadn’t been to a formal yoga class in seven months.
I was absolutely forbidden to do any yoga at all for the first three months, through the holidays. That killed – because the holidays are traditionally the time we all put on a bit more weight.
You’re unstoppable. Definitely. Especially when you think it’s all going downhill and younger women are taking over the planet, your mind is going south, you can’t remember your kid’s teacher’s name, if you’ve mailed the mortgage payment or it’s on autopay, “what-the-heck-was-I-thinking starting a business at my age?” or “screw it, I’m done!”.
If you’re in a rut right now, if you’re stuck and hurting and scared as hell to take a step forward…the ONE remedy, the thing that really works is: to do the thing you’re the most frightened of doing.
Trust that the net, the friends, the new community, job or place to live or whatever else will rise to catch you as you soar out over what might look like empty space.
The way towards freedom, towards better-than-this is not empty. It’s just so very full of your negative projections of doom you can’t see what’s really there: friendly faces and loving, gentle hands. Catching you. Whether you know them now, or they are blessings yet-to-come, they will catch you, and raise you up.
They are there. Waiting for you to step up. I am living proof of this. I stepped into the Void, with nothing but Trust and the net – finely woven of people I knew and resources, situations and people I had yet to meet – arose and supported me as they do all who journey bravely into the Unknown.
That infinitely strong and resilient net will emerge at just the right time to support you too. Just step.
*photo: David Avocado Wolfe